Dealing with Irritating People in Your Life

3 Methods to Ensure Things Go Smoothly

The world is pushing 8 billion people these days.  With so many personalities, there are bound to be at least a few people that you clash with.  Those personality differences are what makes the world better though; all sorts of perspectives that can (and often do) enhance our lives.

But what about those that are just irritating?  Not those who you simply disagree with.  We’re not talking right vs. left here.  We’re talking about those people who are generally considered to have a bad attitude about everything.  These people bring the entire group down whenever they’re around.

They need to be addressed.  And it needs to be done the right way; through the Three I’s method.

Ignore – The number one way to ensure that you’re not affected by someone’s negativity: simply ignore them.

Granted, that’s hard to do when they’re right there with you trying to butt their negativity into the group.  But in many situations, it’s easy to avoid and ignore them.

The problem, however, is that this doesn’t help them to understand they’re bringing down the group.  And it doesn’t help them to improve over time.

Impact – It’s hard to get out of our comfort zones.  And impacting another person’s life is going to be tough; especially in this situation.

Often, people who bring the group down with their irritating negativity don’t realize that they’re bringing the group down with their negativity.

A positive impact can be as easy as politely telling them that when they are around, they should take care to be positive and build others up.

Improve – To help others improve, you must first work on yourself.

Improving your own outlook, your own interactions, and your own mindset will inevitably rub off on those around you.  Positivity breeds positivity.

When you’re intent on helping others get better, first make yourself better.  As Ben Sweetland said, “We cannot hold a torch to light another’s path without brightening our own.”  Likewise, we cannot hold a torch to brighten our path, without brightening others’ paths around us.

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Those grumbly hateful types often don’t add much to our community that serves to enhance us.  I’m not a psychiatrist, but there are some things they need to work on in their own lives first, then come back around and help bring everyone up.

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